Dating 101 for Young Professionals
If you are fresh into the dating game, you’ve probably heard of Tinder, Hinge, and Bumble. These are dating apps.
Specifically, these 3 dating apps are used by kids in colleges, and by post-grads and young professionals ranging from early 20’s up to their early 30’s. However, if you don’t fit into these categories, don’t fret because these apps can pretty much be used by anyone (recommend 18 years and older).
If you are in any way embarrassed or shy to download these apps, don’t be. And if you would go so far out of your way to try to find secret dating apps that look like games, then you probably need to re-evaluate your intentions…
Most people around you will have the Tinder, Hinge, and Bumble app on their iPhone, so it’s nothing to be ashamed of. Trust me.
Now, if this is your first time using any sort of dating app then this article is for you! Before ever downloading Tinder, Hinge, or Bumble, you’ll want to know a few things about them.
Hey, don’t be nervous! There’s a first time for everything!
Let’s get into it…
What to know before using dating apps
Here’s a list of 10 things you need to know before you ever download Tinder, Hinge, or Bumble
- You will see a ton of people you know
- Shoot your shot
- Some dating apps are known to be just “hook-up” apps
- Go in with an open mind
- Know what you are looking for and why you are on the app in the first place
- Get ready for the weird and cheesy pick-up lines
- You won’t match with everyone you like
- Use the block or report account feature if necessary
- Be careful if you ever choose to meet in real life
- It’s okay if you get ghosted
1. You will see a TON of people you know
Once you start your swipe journey on a dating app, you’ll see lots of people from your past…like high school crushes, college hookups, and more.
Seriously, depending on your settings preferences, you can make your search as broad or narrow as you’d like (age, distance, religion, interests, etc.) This will determine if you specify just your neighborhood or beyond…depending on if you’re looking to match with someone special. 😉
2. Shoot your shot
Don’t be afraid to swipe first or chat first! Everyone that’s on a dating app is literally on there for a reason, to meet people!
The only downside to dating apps is you can only chat with people that match with you back. But hey, who would want to chat with someone that didn’t like you back anyway??
3. Some dating apps are known to be just “hook-up” apps, like Tinder
If your heart is set on actually meeting someone and going on dates with them, then I’d consider you to stay away from the Tinder game.
The only con to this is that Tinder is basically the number 1 dating app so there are going to be way more people on this app than Hinge. But, Hinge is a VERY close second!
I’m not saying that you can’t meet “the one” on Tinder, I’m just saying there are way more people that are ~seriosuly looking~ on Hinge than on Tinder. It’s just facts, people.
4. Go in with an open mind
You guys, I know these apps are basically swiping on looks but you should really check out their profile and see their interests. Who knows, you might end up having the same interests or even crazier, find out that you have mutual friends! Remember, it’s a small world, people!
Pro Tip: Don’t swipe on someone that you basically don’t see yourself going on a date with. It’s pointless and it hurts the other person’s feelings if you end up matching but you want nothing to do with them.
5. Know what you are looking for and why you are on the app in the first place
Some people might not be looking for the same things you are.
The best thing to do when you match with someone is to ease the conversation to the topic of “What are you looking for on here?” This helps the process move a little faster and not waste your time if you are looking for different things!
A good way to set your intentions right off that bat is to update your bio! Check out these great dating app bio examples for women!
6. Get ready for the weird and cheesy pick-up lines
If you’ve never experienced a man (or women) flirting with you with those cheesy pick-up lines then get ready for a whirlwind of them on dating apps.
Most people will start a message with a cute (or gross) pick-up line to get the other person to respond, considering the normal “Hey! What’s Up?” is boring and overused.
Just be aware that the best dating app openers don’t include that boring phrase.
Here’s a list of funny pick-up lines for you to use on your next match!
7. You won’t match with everyone you “swipe right” on
The truth of that matter is that you ARE hot but some people can’t see that, so when you are swiping right on those cuties, don’t get too stressed out if that person never swiped back on you.
Move on. We don’t care about them. Okay?
There are SO MANY MORE PEOPLE on that app than that one person.
8. Use the Block or Report Account feature if necessary
If you are uncomfortable with a conversation you are having with someone, please for your sake and other people’s, block that person or report the account. There’s no room for that in your inbox or anyone else’s. 🙂
9. Be careful if you ever choose to meet IRL (in real life)
Swiping, matching, and messaging is the easy part. The hard part is actually meeting up for a date in real life.
Pro Tip: Make sure that you are meeting in a public place with lots of people around if you are meeting for the very first time!
Need some tips on first date jitters? Check out this article: 5 Psychology Tricks You Can Use On A First Date.
Just remember, when you are meeting for the very first time they are just as nervous as you are! 🙂
10. It’s okay if you get ghosted
For those that don’t know what “being ghosted” or “ghosting” means; It means that you or someone you’ve been talking to for quite a while suddenly ends the conversation on a random note and never ever responds back to you, ever.
It’s like, “Poof”, they were in your life, and now they aren’t.
As I said earlier, make sure you understand the other person’s intentions before continuing those long deep conversations. And, unfortunately, it’s a given that you will most likely get ghosted at least once or twice after talking to someone, especially if you are talking to (messaging) them on the dating app itself.
The best thing you can do about this situation is to MOVE ON.
Life is way too short to be sad about that one guy (or girl) on that one app that never responded to your last text.
Don’t be wasting your time on that. They don’t want you, so you don’t want them. Plain and simple.
Which apps should I download for dating?
Below is a short summary of the 3 best dating apps to download but I’d check out this article for more in-depth reasonings: The 3 Best Apps To Download For Dating.
- Tinder is used as a “Hook-up” app but can also be used as a dating app…if you can find someone on there with the same goals.
- Hinge is used as a dating app. I would definitely recommend Hinge to everyone out there looking to find their soulmate.
- Bumble is used as a second-tier dating app. Good to have on deck, but I’d stick with Hinge.
If you are looking for something less serious, then here are some other dating apps that could be fun to try out:
- Hater dating app
This app is literally an app that is specially programmed to match you with people that hate the same stuff as you. Funny and smart right?
- Clover dating app
My clover dating app review would be that it’s a good app and it mixes a variety of things such as group texts called “Mixers”. “Mixers” are groups that you can join in which you can find out fun events nearby where people in the chat can go and meet up at. Definitely a good app to try out!
In the end, some may ask, “Are dating apps worth it?” and the simple answer to the question is yes. Dating apps are worth it, even if you are just on there for fun and not really looking for anything serious…Who knows, something great might happen from it!
Most importantly, have fun, be safe and remember your intentions. You’ll be fine.
Just don’t take anything too seriously when you are just starting out. I’d recommend browsing around the apps and getting a feel for the type of people that are on it before digging in too deep.
Until next time…